Limitations

Steve at Do Something Cool wrote an excellent post on limitations, and suggested that they are only illusions. It was a great post and I suggest you read it. But it inspired me to take a look at my own limitations, or, the tough spot I find myself in right now.

I’ve been working on my fitness certifications (to include personal training and yoga teaching) for the past year now. After I received my personal trainer certification, I could stop doing the studying for the test, but that didn’t mean I was done learning.

I took on some clients in June. Since that time, I have been working with 4-5 clients. All this in addition to taking my yoga teaching training course and more recently, trying to get an online program off the ground. I spend about 20 hours on fitness stuff each week, and of course, the 40-45 hours of work each week. To think that I’ve had this pace since June, and even had a similar pace (although more like 10 hours on fitness) from October 2012 through June 2013, I guess it would make sense that I would be tired, and anxious to drop my day job and just get on with it!

Here it is October. It’s been a solid year since I began this journey, actively working towards my goal. It’s no wonder I am reaching a hard time right now. I’m entering into a new growing area. I’m doing more than I’ve ever done, and have the knowledge that it’s not going to end right away. My brain is entering this new territory and trying to make me back off. It says, “whoa—you can’t do this!”

But my brain is wrong.

I see that other people do stuff like this, and overcome even more obstacles than I have to overcome. Some people have children they have to take care of on top of all this. My load is certainly bearable.

But, this is not an easy thing to do. And I guess that’s why so many people don’t go after a new career or some other big goal. It’s a lot of hard work. There’s the idea that you have to figure out how to do it all, and still maintain your relationships, keep your house (relatively) clean, go to work, and so on.

There’s a part of me that says this stuff should not be a big deal. People work 60-65 hours all the time. What’s wrong with you? But then there’s the other part of me that says, this is the first time you’ve ever done anything like this. You’ve never demanded that much of yourself before. It’s no surprise your brain is resistant. Not only is it a matter of putting in the hours, it’s a matter of getting over the fears and uncertainties: will this work? Who am I to think I can do this? Why would anyone want to be my client? You don’t know enough.

No wonder people stay status quo at jobs they don’t really like. It is not easy to make the transition.

As for limitations: it may be difficult, but when I see something that looks like a limitation, I just get up close, and realize it was only an illusion after all.

 

9 Responses to “Limitations”

  1. Jon Jefferson October 2, 2013 at 10:52 pm #

    It can be even harder when the people around you think they are helping by telling you to quit pushing yourself so much. But really, the only thing stopping you is you. You are capable of so much more than you currently think possible.

  2. Levi October 3, 2013 at 2:34 pm #

    Perspective: I think this really is the key.

    = > Continually reminding ourselves or putting ourselves in situations (see: reading books, reflection) to see what others have done and gone through. This not only raises the bar and helps us believe in ourselves that much more(think of the 4 minute mile) but also helps us remove the self-pity that we all carry (because there is always someone who has it tougher than us).

    Congrats on your successes, Bethany.

    You will look back on this post in one year and think, “That was nothing!”

    :)

    • Bethany Lee October 4, 2013 at 9:38 am #

      Thanks Levi, and I hope and believe that you are right (about looking at this in one year). But yes, perspective is so helpful. This is why I like to read from blogs writing about others who have made their own way. It helps. It’s encouraging.

  3. Lea October 4, 2013 at 12:56 pm #

    great post Bethany! so true! I am incredibly impressed with all that you have accomplished and hope to follow in your awesome foot steps. :)

    Lea

    • Bethany Jo Lee October 7, 2013 at 11:21 am #

      Thanks Lea! I think you are already leading the way! :-)

  4. Susan Cooper October 4, 2013 at 8:20 pm #

    You are such a success and your determination with bring you so far. :-)

  5. Cheryl October 8, 2013 at 11:17 am #

    You are both a success and an inspiration. You can do anything you set your mind to. You are the only thing standing in your way. :)

  6. Steve October 18, 2013 at 2:42 pm #

    Hey Bethany, I’m glad you loved my post. I love how you expanded off what I wrote. I love what you said about resistance. People do work 60-65 hours and don’t have problems with it. But when you add fear and uncertainty on top of it, it becomes a lot harder.

    I think fear and uncertainty are actually big reasons we have limitations. When your brain is telling you what you can’t do, it might just be telling you have some fear about it.

    It looks like you been putting in a lot of work and making great progress. It’s impressive to see how much you’ve been pushing yourself. Keep up the good work.

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